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Membership

US is a member of the National Association of Independent Schools (NAIS), the Ohio Association of Independent Schools (OAIS), the Cleveland Council of Independent Schools (CCIS), and the International Boys' Schools Coalition (IBSC).

Modeling Best Practices

This communication can be verbal as well as nonverbal. Child and adolescent psychologist Dr. Clark Goldstein warns against telegraphing to children outsize and unhelpful reactions to stressors: “Don’t reinforce the child’s fears. What you don’t want to do is be saying, with your tone of voice or body language: ‘Maybe this is something that you should be afraid of.’” We should listen and validate boys’ feelings, to be sure, yet we can also cue up boys’ reactions with our own reactions, sometimes well beyond the situations or topics at hand.

Our example is all-important. In his book Raising Boys, Steve Biddulph writes, “Role-modeling is an evolutionary trait in humans.” Indeed, boys and young men need mentors for their own evolution, and nowhere is mentorship more needed than in managing emotions. “By adolescence,” Lisa Damour writes, “girls drive along a broad emotional highway, while our teenage sons restrict themselves to an increasingly narrow lane.” Boys’ experience in adolescence is, very often, increasingly gendered. Correspondingly, their comfort with expressing emotions is increasingly fraught.

Yet boys can and do look to role models for their wisdom and “in-car” guidance. I cannot count the number of times, for example, I have seen some of the toughest student-athletes I know break down at the moment their final interscholastic sports season comes to an end. The moment is significant. For most of them it is an ending; only a small percentage of high schoolers go on to compete in college. Their feelings are also significant. No one questions the boys’ tears – least of all their equally emotional team captains – because no one questions how hard they have worked and how much their bonds with one another mean.

For me, a vivid memory of my late father from my childhood comes to mind. With colored pencils in hand, I was busily trying to create my own replicas of paper money. I had done the research – I knew who Salmon P. Chase was because he was pictured on the $10,000 bill – and I was now doing the work. Of course, my replicas fell short of perfection. Far short. I started to cry. I was not shamed that day and do not feel shame to this day. However, my father did engage me in an open, honest, and thoughtful conversation about emotions. He spoke softly but powerfully of when he did and did not cry. The “narrow lane” was not closed to me; rather, an adult male I respected was teaching me how to operate within that long and winding road.

Our own handling of stress and anxiety is the most powerful lesson. “Teenagers of all genders should be able to express the full range of emotions,” Damour adds. “We want them to have the right feelings at the right time – regardless of the gender rules – and to learn how to manage those emotions effectively.” This management, especially from respected male role models, is essential to normalizing boys’ anxiety before it controls them.

In his bestseller Shop Class as Soulcraft: An Inquiry into the Value of Work, Matthew B. Crawford writes of the value my counselee Walter recognized long ago. The takeaways are tangible. “He can simply point: the building stands, the car now runs, the lights are on. Boasting is what a boy does, because he has no real effect in the world. But the tradesman must reckon with the infallible judgment of reality, where one’s failures or shortcomings cannot be interpreted away.” The benefits for Walter extended well beyond the beautiful artifacts he produced. They are skills that continue to serve him well to this day.

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Accreditation

Shepherd Royals University College (SRUC) is an Accredited Member with Transworld Accrediting Commission International. Serving the Christian education community, Transworld is a federally recognized, non-profit church educational organization designed specifically for biblical institutions. Their philosophy is to demonstrate accountability to the consuming public for education obtained in nontraditional evangelical educational institutions.

TRANSWORLD oversees more than 1000 member institutions including schools, seminaries, universities, colleges and institutes both in the United States and internationally. They provide documented evidence of compliance with standards of structure and governance, material resources, policies, faculty, and curriculum. TRANSWORLD’S overall purpose is to promote academic excellence and accountability.

For more information about Transworld Accrediting Commission International,

To provide an immersive experience at the Revival Capital of the World, our program is offered exclusively on campus at Kenneth Copeland Bible College, located on the property of Kenneth Copeland Ministries and Eagle Mountain International Church (EMIC).

Because the curriculum is experiential, combining both classroom learning and learning opportunities outside the traditional academic setting, online classes will not be offered at this time.

Our students will be welcomed by EMIC, which will provide community and helpful information to students relocating to the Fort Worth area.

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